When Did “Thigh Gaps” Happen?

Thigh Gaps Fitness Strenth Health

No seriously, when?

Growing up in the South, a black woman in the South especially, I was raised that being so skinny that there was a gap in between your legs was considered ‘nasty little.”  A sure sign of being sickly or in a bad home environment.  Now yes, that’s a bit of a harsh judgement, but that’s the South for you sometimes.  Snarky back porch gossip aside, having a “thigh gap” was nothing I was raised to aspire to in any shape or fashion.

Then suddenly the past few years, I have slowly watched the “thigh gap” become a goal to be attained.  Wha-huh?  What exactly does having a space between your thighs have to do with your health and level of fitness?


Having a “thigh gap” is primarily a function of your skeletal structure.  If you have wide hips, you most likely are going to have some amount of visible gap in  between your thighs, even if you carry some extra weight on you.  If you have narrow hips, well chances are you will never have a gap unless you reach a ridiculously low (and dangerous) body weight.

Depending on your body type, you could spend the rest of your life in pursuit of the infamous “thigh gap” to no avail.  Your body is your body.  Figure out the best way to show it off –  be happy and revel in it.

Even at my thinnest, I never had a thigh gap because that isn’t how my body is structured, and I’ve always had fairly defined legs.  My thighs just aren’t going to have a gap, and that is not my goal.

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Trading In My Type A Personality for a “Be”

Type A Personality

I was that kid in school.  I did my book reports the first weekend I got them.  I slept in a watch.  My folders were all neatly aligned and color-coded.  My class notes were meticulous, even in my stone-age equivalent handwriting.  I would re-write them if they weren’t neat.  I kept all my shoes neatly stacked in their original shoe boxes.  I typed up my Christmas lists (also color coded).

Yeah, I have Type A hardwired in me.  It’s no wonder I spent the last twenty years obsessed with spreadsheets, contract negotiations and conference rooms.  I’m not knocking it [in case I end up back there one day - Ha!].  There are some wonderful things about being Type A.  Driven.  Achiever.  Hard-worker.  An all-around “gets things done” kind of person.  Yep – that’s me!  What’s wrong with that?


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Monday Motivation: Be Kind To The Person You Are Today

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Be kind to the person you are today.

This very moment.

Be supportive and loving of this person who may be afraid, grieving, carrying a few extra pounds, stuck in a frustrating job, or struggling in a bad relationship.

Do not pity her or consider her weak and undisciplined.

Instead, be kind and remember to think of her that day in the future when you see an old photograph, give away those old clothes that are too big for you, start your new job, or start your new life.

Stop for a moment and thank her.  Thank her for working so hard.  For not giving up.  For not listening to people who told her “No.”

For believing in you enough to keep trying.

She may have the hardest job of all.

Be kind to the person you are today.

She is the one with the vision and strength to create your future.



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Let Go & Let In: Spiritual Housekeeping

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In many cultures, lanterns are released into the air or on the water both to release worries and stress, as well as to bring good luck and the fulfillment of wishes.

Somehow, Sunday simultaneously seems to be the end of the last week and the beginning of the next week.

This juncture of time is a great opportunity to take just a few minutes (or longer if you need/want to) and do a little spiritual housekeeping.

What are you holding on to in your spirit that you need to let go of today?  It doesn’t matter if it was from the last week or something from your childhood.  Try to pick one thing today to pull out of the personal baggage we all carry with us and just let it go.  You don’t have to forget it, or even forgive it.  Just acknowledge it only for the moment it takes to allow yourself to be free of it.

Let it go.

What do you need more of in your life – physically or emotionally.  Maybe what you need is the guidance to know exactly what in the world it is you need more of in the first place.  Whatever it is, pick that one thing today and open your heart and your mind and your faith to allow it to come into existence for you.

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Kettlebells, Pumpkins & Planks: A Quick Workout on a Fall Day

The weekend looms before us, and that calls for lots of Fall activities outdoors as the weather becomes increasingly pleasant.  If you’re short on time, here’s a quick and dirty little kettlebell workout to get your heart pumping, your hips swinging and your muscles screaming.  Top it off with at least a minute of plank, and your core will thank you later.  No pumpkins were harmed in this workout.  Or even included, but it will sure be easier to pick them up in the long run if you keep swinging.

Swing with a bell size that is challenging, but not impossible.  100 swings can wear you down quickly if you go too heavy.  Swing Safe!


Kettlebell Plank Workout